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December 2009 
Growing Pains
Posted on May 29th, 2009
by 
Geertje
Geertje
Honestly, I’ve never been big on the “everything happens for a reason” vibe. Lately however, I’m surprised how life just can seem to make sense. Or, from a more scholarly perspective; how we as humans are able to put sense into our lives. Either way you look at it; life can be a meaningful experience.
It takes some effort though, from our part. We can’t just sit around, waiting for our lives to make sense. We cannot turn it into a project either, however. There’s an art to living life in a way that is meaningful. From what I’ve learned, this art has nothing to do with getting what you want and it has everything to do with being willing to just show up for your life. In a way it’s easy, if you can let go of the whole B.S. phase.
The person that is willing to show up, to be available for the nature of reality as it is, not as we want it to be, lives the deepest and most rich life because they include everything and not just half of their experience (the desired). When we are somehow able to move our focus beyond the investments of our ego, and into the open, wild field of our boundless spirits, we discover a strength that continuously amazes me. This is the process of transformation; moving from a narrow to a bigger perspective.
One of my dearest friends left a voicemail today telling me she having ‘growing pains’, but was doing very well in the big perspective. I loved the way she put that, because make no mistake about it; if you are on any path that has heart, that will transform you to someone so much juicier than you ever imagined, you will have growing pains accordingly.
But here’s the thing. Don’t get stuck on the growing pains. If you connect with what’s behind them, be it freedom, healing, transformation, all the Really Good Stuff, they will not go away but they will be put into perspective. The stretch marks on your heart only beautify it.
It takes some effort though, from our part. We can’t just sit around, waiting for our lives to make sense. We cannot turn it into a project either, however. There’s an art to living life in a way that is meaningful. From what I’ve learned, this art has nothing to do with getting what you want and it has everything to do with being willing to just show up for your life. In a way it’s easy, if you can let go of the whole B.S. phase.
The person that is willing to show up, to be available for the nature of reality as it is, not as we want it to be, lives the deepest and most rich life because they include everything and not just half of their experience (the desired). When we are somehow able to move our focus beyond the investments of our ego, and into the open, wild field of our boundless spirits, we discover a strength that continuously amazes me. This is the process of transformation; moving from a narrow to a bigger perspective.
One of my dearest friends left a voicemail today telling me she having ‘growing pains’, but was doing very well in the big perspective. I loved the way she put that, because make no mistake about it; if you are on any path that has heart, that will transform you to someone so much juicier than you ever imagined, you will have growing pains accordingly.
But here’s the thing. Don’t get stuck on the growing pains. If you connect with what’s behind them, be it freedom, healing, transformation, all the Really Good Stuff, they will not go away but they will be put into perspective. The stretch marks on your heart only beautify it.
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